At some point during your wedding planning, you'll want to say, "Forget this! We're going to Vegas!" It's true, it happens to everyone. Whether it's your mothers constant questioning of your every decision (A red dress?! No cake?!) or strangers little advice nuggets (I would never let my husband wear tennis shoes!) or a vendor being unresponsive - something will put you over the edge. Here are some tips to help you deal with the stress:
1. Turn off the internet. Pinterest, Weddingbee, Offbeat Bride, Eat Drink Chic - I love them all. Spending hours looking at inspirational photos is so fun, right up until the point when it isn't. Seeing all these perfect images of someones Anthropology inspired wedding (all DIY!) is enough to make you crazy with jealousy and start to second guess your choices. "Should I have handcrafted flags on the straws at our open bar?" should not be keeping you up at night.
2. "What a great idea, thank you so much." This phrase. Learn it, love it, live it. Your neighbor has a great photographer recommendation. Your co-worker suggests that you have monogramed matchbook favors. Your future mother-in-law thinks you should wear her old veil. "What a great idea, thank you so much." Then do whatever you and your fiancé feel is best.
3. Take a break. Go to the gym or run around the block (I am by no means suggesting you lose weight, believe me). Exercise is proven to make you feel better and the endorphin boost couldn't hurt in keeping your mood up. Better yet, take a week off from planning altogether. Talking about your wedding 24/7 sucks all of the fun out of it! With a little distance, you might realize that the great cocktail napkin debacle of 2012 wasn't really that big of a deal.
4. Know what you can do and what you can't. Trying to mesh your ideas of a perfect wedding, while also trying to "follow the rules" and keep up with family members' and friends' ideals is certainly a stressful task. The problem is more apparent when your ideal wedding doesn't follow the rules and doesn't fit in with the vision that friends or family have. Be true to yourself and your budget. Trying to have a big Hollywood wedding on a shoestring is a recipe for stress and disaster.
5. Stay focused. The whole point of your wedding is to get married, and that's it! As long you both show up, say your vows and leave together the rest is just icing on the cake! No wedding can satisfy every guest, no matter how hard you try. Just so long as you and your husband have had a good time, you're set.
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