Getting engaged so exciting! Everyone wants to share in that excitement with you, but only one person can be the Laverne to your Shirley. Some people have always known who would be standing by their side on the big day, others have to decide (kind of quickly!) from a pool of friends and family. Traditionally, if you have an older sister or particularly close cousin, she would get the honor. But what if you don't have a close female family member?
Being a Maid of Honor is like having a reverse part time job: she does a ton of work, deals with lots of stress and has to pay for the privilege. If there is any doubt that that who you have in mind won't be able to handle all of the tasks involved, have a chat and be honest. If your best friend just lost her job, she may not be up for the honor. The last thing you want is to lose a friend over this, so being frank is the best policy.
Here's a short list of the MOH duties:
Work with all of your other bridesmaids to decide on a dress, hair do, shoes, purses, and a bunch of other little things - no easy task!
Help you shop for a dress and veil.
Answer your 100 emails about favors, color scheme, shoes and your future-in-laws.
Lead the planning of your bridal shower.
Help you register.
Attend all of the parties.
Witness your marriage and sign the certificate.
Make a speech at the reception.
And that's not the half of it!
Once you have decided on your Maid (or Matron) of Honor, the fun really begins. Treat her to a nice dinner and outline everything that is expected, you'll be glad you did when the big day comes. Also, let her pick a dress that flatters her figure and coloring - looking great is all of your photos is the least you can do to say thank you!
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